Archive for July, 2009

Givers like having fun with people. They are just full of unembarrassed enthusiasm and an innocent zest for life. They radiate optimism and insist on living fully. They offer time, advice, commodities, services, attention, compassion, communication, and much more. Givers mindfully create friendships, partnerships, and relationships.

Takers, on the other hand, have the habit of emotionally reacting to other people. They see their lives as constant struggle. The core belief of the taker is that life is unfair. The taker is a personality-obsessed victim. Paradoxically, the more they “gain” by taking, the more victimized they feel.

Most people are takers. They have a hard time giving because they were disappointed by previous attempts. The belief is that they have tried giving before and it has backfired.

But here’s the thing: What most people call giving is really a misconstrued form of trading. You see, they’re focused on what the return will be. True giving does not focus on a return. True giving is only concerned with giving. The giver gives unconditionally.

A very interesting point.  This reading can be found at http://gonesavage.blogspot.com/2009/03/givers-vs-takers.html .  I guess I am 70% giver and 30% taker.  I can do better to make it 50/50. It’s true  giving does not always bring happiness in return.  We give just because we want to give at that moment, to that person, for own joy of giving and to fulfill a life pupose.

Inspired by Jason Savage (gonesavage.com)

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“Sarek: Speak your mind, Spock….What is necessary is never unwise.” – Star Trek

“… to explore strange new worlds, to seek out new life-forms and new civilizations; to boldly go where no one has gone before.” – Star Trek monologue

“Twenty years form now you will be more disappointed by the things that you didn’t do than by the ones you did do. So throw off the bowlines. Sail away from the safe harbor. Catch the trade winds in your sails and dare to dream!” – Mark Twain

“Looking at men who are drunk is a mistake. Looking at women who are drunk is a temptation.” – Anonymous

“Relationships are like traffic signs 1-way, 2-way, do not enter, no U turn, no left turn, but the best so far is give way and keep right.” – Anonymous

“Only in quiet waters do things mirror themselves undistorted. Only in a quiet mind is adequate perception of the world.” — Hans Margolius

“Lots of people want to ride with you in the limo, but what you want is someone who will take the bus with you when the limo breaks down.” –Oprah Winfrey

“If we understand the root causes of our negative energy, and how it causes us to cycle from reaction to reaction, then we have the information we need to make a conscious choice. This is hard work. It’s not what we want to hear. But it is the work that will set us free from the spin cycle.” – Edward Marshall

“As human beings, two hungers drive us. An individual desire to realize our own potential, tofulfill a purpose. And a hunger to be connected…” – Angela Blanchard

“Love yourself first and everything else falls into line. You really have to love yourself to get anything done in this world.” – Lucille Ball

“I’m tough, ambitious, and I know exactly what I want. If that makes me a bitch, okay. I am my own experiment. I am my own work of art.” – Madonna

“A series of scenes put in a particular order designed to leave the viewer with no choice but to feel one particular way. ” – Unsourced On the art of moviemaking

“For women the best aphrodisiacs are words. The G-spot is in the ears. He who looks for it below there is wasting his time.” – Isabel Allende

“Life is complicated. Making it work is your responsibility.” —

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Out of curiosity many times I have my mind swirling around words.  Words fascinated me.  One example is “imagination”.  Human minds can imagine far and beyond.  Just think about how all things we live with in modern world compared to our ancestors, all innovations, wars, wonders, on this world and I admire how powerful human mind can be.  The mind can transform the imaginative to reality.  The mind can see things in its own analytical ways, can form its own perception of a person, has power to build, also to kill, to destroy, and power to heal.  Multiple aspects of the human imagination (HI) span from spirtual, to religious, to high-tech. HI => technologies => products that go (movies, music, architecture) far beyond any imagination. I admire those brains with such grandiose imaginations. To put together the science and engineering logics of their imaginations must require the artistic side of their brain (the right brain? perhaps). It is all about the work of the arts.
Seeing my little second cousin’s drawing and playfully palying piano without looking at the keyboard is just astounding.  We don’t want to underestimate any one, even a kid.

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