Archive for October, 2009

If you have email and have used email, I am sure you have come across at least once in your internet life this kind of email. The email that asks you to forward to 100 people and you’d be blessed or lucky and winning lottery… Did you read, and/or forward? I received this kind of chain email so many times, and who is it from? It is from my sister!
Geez, I wonder if she ever reads these, or just is enthusiastically pre-wired to just click and send/forward. So this time I decided to write back with a dry sense of humor:

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My dry humor – Re: Fwd: [FWD: FW: Feng Shui (read – Please don’t delete)]

From: Lyna Le


1. Chain letter is considered SPAM. While you have nice intention of sharing “wisdom”, you’re sharing everyone’s email addresses. A lot of people do not like their privacies being shared around the world. My 2cents for email etiquette: There is “BCC” for you to use and hide email addresses of your circle; or remove people’s email addresses from the message’s content. Resize the message. Consider people ‘s computer limitations.

2. Why wouldn’t someone get bothered by these changes of font color from red to green to purple.., big font to small font, small case to upper case inside the message? Don’t you feel like you’re being yelled at while reading these? Wouldn’t you want to enjoy reading a more eye-pleasing message?
It would be a big surprise if someone spend time scrolling down to read this entire message, while not even touching or finishing reading a magazine for years. Yeah, you know who. ūüôā Talking about “click and just send”, or “delete”, it seems we are all pre-wired by these chain mail?
Even a preacher can’t practice what they preach. What do you think of that “read – but don’t delete” ?

Hope you take it as my dry humor for today.

Peace, folks.

Date: Tue, 20 Oct 2009 09:26:20 -0700
From: @yahoo.com
Subject: Fwd: Feng Shui (read – Please don’t delete)
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This is without a doubt one of the nicest good luck forwards I have received.. Hope it works for you — and me!

Lotus Touts: You have 6 minutes

There’s some mighty fine advice in these words, even if you’re not superstitious. This Lotus Touts has been sent to you for good luck from the Anthony Robbins organization. It has been sent around the world ten tim es so far.

Do not keep this message.

The Lotus Touts must leave your hands in 6 MINUTES. Otherwise you will get a very unpleasant surprise. This is true, even if you are not superstitious, agnostic, or otherwise faith impaired.

ONE. Give people more than they expect and do it cheerfully.

TWO. Marry a man/woman you love to talk to. As you get older, their conversational skills will be as important as any other.

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This post is to correspond to the article at Resources.

When people get busy, hurried, and stressed they put aside
their own needs and the needs of their relationships in the
rush to get thing done. But when you are busy, hurried and
stressed is when you need time for yourself and with your loved
one(s) the most. Time and space nourish you, and allow you to be
more effective – and being more effective means you get things
done better and faster.

This is counterintuitive. Just when you think you have
absolutely no time for yourself or your relationships (family or
significant other), is when you should take the time in order to
be more effective. Think of time you spend on yourself and on
your relationships as time spent charging up your body and

How do you carve out that time? Here are a few suggestions to
help you out.
1. You don’t have to do everything you have to do
Sometimes people who feel overwhelmed want to do everything on
their list as a way to relieve the pressure. This will not work
because you simply will not get everything on your list done-
and, if you came close, the list would start filling up again
with additional must-do tasks.
What do you really have to do? Be as clear about this as you
would be if you were advising a friend: only a few things on
that list are really in the “must do” category. Erase the rest,
forgive yourself for not doing those other things, and spend the
freed-up time on yourself or your loved one(s).

2. Simplify
Look carefully at the items on your list that involve a lot of
steps or look like they will take a lot of time. If they really
must be done right now, is there a way to do them more simply,
more directly? Think about your experience with complex
projects, and how they often seem to double in complexity and in
the time required as unexpected problems crop up or extra steps
have to be added.
This may be the time to go for a “good enough” result, rather
than a perfect one. Opt for simplicity and ease: it’s ok not to
struggle. Use the freed-up time to spend on yourself or your
loved one(s).

3. Set a realistic to-do list for the day; stop when it’s done
If you work for someone else, your boss only gets to tell you
what to do during the hours he or she has paid for. Beyond that,
if there is any justice in your work world, someone else has to
do the things that you could not get to, or they have to wait.

Try this experiment: pretend that your to-do list has hired you
for a certain number of hours each day. Work your hardest for
your to-do boss in the time you have agreed on. And then stop
for the day: enough is enough. You may need to pare down your
idea of what you can reasonably accomplish in a day.

4. Take care of yourself
Do one (or more) self-care actions each morning. This can be
vastly different for different people: from a 10 minute
meditation to a short walk, to making sure you have some quiet
time even if you have to get up 15 minutes early, to using a
special body-care product, to applying moisturizer to your face,
to making a special cup of tea or coffee before you run out the
door. Do something easy, fast, and special to recharge your
batteries and let you know you are important.
You will then find it easier to make better choices throughout
the day, having been recharged a bit by your self-care action.
You will be more likely, later in the day, to make wise
decisions about making time for yourself and your loved one(s)
instead of doing more stuff.

5. Set a drop to-do list time, before you drop from exhaustion
Set a time every day when you will stop everything you are
doing to give yourself some space and time or spend time with
your loved one(s). Make sure this is a time long before you drop
from exhaustion. If you tend to pass out at 9 pm, make sure your
alone or together time starts no later then 8:30. Better yet,
make it 8 pm.
Alternatively, decide on a time that works best in your
schedule and stop for half an hour to an hour in the middle of
the day or early evening to spend time on yourself or on your
loved one(s).

6. Refuel with love
It seems impossible during a busy period to carve out any time
at all for yourself or for a loved one. But you can and you
really should. We all know people function better on adequate
sleep. But do you know that people function better on adequate
When you are spending time on yourself you are loving yourself.
This self-love will nourish you and make you more effective.
When you are spending time on loved one(s) you are allowing
yourself to be nourished by them/him/her and that will make you
more effective as well.

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Brigitte Bardot

BB – My Mom liked her. My Dad was fond of her (Now I know why) . They never mentioned much about her until I found out more about her myself … Good to know her a brown-haired girl of a solid backgrounded family, an animal rights activist, a vegetarian, once a sex symbol. She is 75 now, and she does look fabulous. I like her natural beauty.

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800px-Chopin_at_Singapore_Botanical_GardensGrowing up as a kid I loved listening to all kinds of music. I was not exposed to any musical environment. Mom was too busy earning bread for us to think about having any of us taking musical class. Plus, she believes in education, education, and education. The next door neighbor in Nhatrang had radio. I listened to whatever they listened. The morning BBC at the time broadcast from overseas allowed me to learn some Vietnamese songs, old and new at the time. I remember me writing down the songs I overheard from their radio. There were afternoon sing-a-song teaching program for children, foreign music request program every Sunday morning. So I collected all songs in my mind and/or jotted them down into a notebook, and learned different songs by Madonna, Michael Jackson, Bonney M, Modern Talking, Wham, ABBA, Julio Iglesias, even some french songs. I learned to sing along and then sing to my younger siblings, especially my younger sister who asked me to sing for her noonnap. Later on, living in Bien Hoa, Mom bought us radio-double cassette system and TV. I had more interest in tuning into different stations. I was into the classics station and would have it on to put me to sleep at night. The cassette musical tapes I had were given by the seller, and I listened to them over and over again until I transferred them to a longer ribboned tape (90 min) and overwrote the tape with my favorite songs from the radio stations. I loved the beats of the music and started picking up some ballroom-dance steps from a girl-friend (Phuong Thao). Speaking of Thao, she is an artist herself; she could draw very well. So, I went to sleep with classics and woke up in the morning dancing to the “beats”. I exercised, practiced the be-pop and cha-cha in the mornings. My mom and sister still talk jokingly about me “sweeping the floor in the morning”. I realized that was the beginning of what put me into the beats and into body shaping, and it did indeed help building some gestures into me. Then I got into music-exchange with school friends. Of course, these were the Vietnamese musical notes or songs made before 1975, which at the time was banned because they were considered by Vietnamese Communist as “nhac nguy doi truy” (addictive, non-patriotic, brain-washing music).
I could sing well. The age of karaoke in the 90’s proved that. Sometimes my mom and sisters encouraged me to participate into the contests. I did think about that; but I never felt a need to do such a thing, or to become a singer. I did sing at New Year’s celebration or cultural events. I am not timid. I enjoyed doing karaoke with friends, and yes, they called me singer or “ca si Yen-Nhi”. One thing I learned about myself is I like strong-willed or strong-spirited music, while most of Vietnamese music is so sad; they were all about one person departing, broken-hearted girls singing out for love. That is not what I would do on stage. So I’d rather choose the music of youth or young romance, of nationalism, of nature to sing. In other words, the songs I perform have to be meaningful to me. I admit music is in my blood. My maternal grandfather with his years of¬† playing french horn for french military had an influence on my musical talent. He taught me the musical keys. My father was active in community, was a soccer coach, played tennis when he was young, and had good voice. He loved singing to songs and to poems. I see I am a copy of him in that aspect sometimes. I am a truth seeker, as somebody says that to me. To really know the what and the how of music, I inquired more on how to appreciate music and arts, how to play piped organ (the one that is as high as the church building and requires you play with feet and hands), and tried to learn playing flute but my lungs are too weak. I ordered a brand-name $200-clarinet for that class, and unfortunately returned it after three months.
Years went by with my my own evolution, I turned to music when I need to relax. I guess my passion varies. The same with music. I changed taste from time to time. I guess, it does that to everybody, throughout different stages of their lives. But I can always go back to the roots. I can see myself confident when presenting myself or conducting my manner. I think that is part of what built me up as a person today. I see myself as a contributor, rather than an attention-grabber.

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Brigitte Bardot & Alain DelonAs a teen I quickly learned that I grew  up with music, with songs, poetry, arts, drawing, and writing.  I loved reading as a teenage and would save my pennies for catching a new bi-lingual book from the bookstore.  After english, french is my second favorite language.  My mom invested in us with english, not french.  Living in the US and going to college gave me opportunity to take french class for electives.   So I learned some, but have not used much.  I am comfortable when listening to those french songs.  So many of them are so romantique; the golden, ever lasting songs. 

I have always loved the melody of this song (Je t’aime … moi non plus) and just found out recently its original song, the best version of this song has Alain Delon and Brigitte Bardot (they are my mom’s favorite stars).¬† I read that this song was banned for a number of years by BBC. The British mind then! I guess, French people are known for their own body and sexual sensualite, n’est-ce pas? Listening more to the song and oh wow!… ¬†The song is burning passionate.¬† I love the expression of passion, the deep meaning or multi-aspects of the song… mais pourquoi “moi non plus” ? (oh uh.. ¬†how far my mind can go or what I am thinking about). Ok, I am just gonna enjoy it.
je t’aime moi non plus

Je t’aime, je t’aime
oh, oui je t’aime!
moi non plus
oh, mon amour…
comme la vague irrésolu

je vais, je vais et je viens
entre tes reins
je vais et je viens
entre tes reins* et je me retiens

je t’aime, je t’aime
oh, oui je t’aime!
moi non plus
oh mon amour… tu es la vague, moi l’√ģle nue

tu va, tu va et tu viens entre mes reins
tu vas et tu viens entre mes reins et je te rejoins
je t’aime, je t’aime
oh, oui je t’aime!
moi non plus
oh, mon amour… comme la vague irr√©solu
je vais, je vais et je viens
entre tes reins je vais et je viens entre tes reins et je me retiens

tu va, tu va et tu viens entre mes reins
tu vas et tu viens entre mes reins et je te rejoins
je t’aime, je t’aime oh, oui je t’aime!
moi non plus oh mon amour…
l’amour physique est sans issue

je vais, je vais et je viens
entre tes reins
je vais et je viens et je me retiens
Non! Maintenant viens!
———- Another version with the heartbeats:

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